I’m sitting here at 9:30am on Friday morning enjoying my second cup of coffee while Dmitri plays with his cars and watches a YouTube video. A lot has changed in the year and a half since I last posted. We’ve had another Christmas and two Dmitri birthdays and lots of changes from Dmitri. He’s only two so still a toddler but his language is exploding and he pretty much runs everywhere he goes. He still loves his cars and seeing how something works before he plays with it. Future engineer anyone?!
I have no problem with letting Dmitri watch shows on YouTube or Netflix or whatever. He has learned way more from the videos than Tyler and I could have taught him. The videos are much more interactive and exciting. Not to mention, they can easily repeat over and over and don’t get tired. If Dmitri sat there only staring at the screen and not talking to it, he would be limited more than he is. But he doesn’t. He sings along to the songs, counts ahead if the video is too slow and shouts out colour and shapes and whatever the video is showing. I love watching him really getting into a show or movie (a lot of “oh nos” come out of watching Car’s 3 and he laughs at Heihei in Moana).
Tyler and I decided together that as long as Dmitri is learning and not just staring blankly, he can have shows. This is a choice we made for our family. Other people make the same or completely different decisions for their family. And guess what? That’s ok! There’s so much judgement and mom-shaming out there that is so unnecessary. Recently we were judged and shamed by someone because Dmitri was watching shows to calm down (his toys kept getting stolen) and he ate some chicken nuggets for lunch (he was refusing to eat any other meat). This same person also tried to shame me for using formula using the whole “I don’t want to put chemicals in my baby’s body” thing. Like, really? Why is this a thing? Shouldn’t we be helping fellow mums instead of trying to tear them down? I’ve had new mum friends ask me for advice or tell me things they were doing that I didn’t do with Dmitri. Like, one’s baby would only sleep on his front. That worked for them so great! I know how terrible the sleeping thing is. Dmitri was a shit sleeper, still is sometimes. So do what works for you. I never thought “oh my god she shouldn’t do that I’m gonna tell her how terrible that is”. Like, no. It’s not terrible. The baby was close to the age of rolling over himself anyway and it got him to sleep so yay!
I have no room in my life for people who want to judge me and try to shame me for the choices I make for my family. Like yah, if I’m harming Dmitri in some way call me out but shit, watching videos and eating chicken nuggets? Sounds like pretty typical 2 year old stuff. He knows his colours, can count in sequence 1-20 (and is working on 20 and beyond), knows his shapes including rhombus and parallelogram and knows way more animals than I could ever have taught him at his age. So I’m pretty sure the chicken nuggets and shows aren’t hurting his development lol.
So let’s try to be kinder to eachother. Let’s not judge and shame someone because you personally wouldn’t do something. We don’t live in small villages anymore where we have tons of help. And some of us are even more isolated and have almost zero help than the rest.
So to all the new mums and about to be mums and the veteran mums, you do you and fuck the jugdey shammers. They aren’t worth your time and energy.
I’m ending this post with a disorganised collection of Dmitri pics because why not. He’s adorable!